Porn

I realized I have not written about porn, and that it would be a good idea to do so. This could be a huge topic with lots of offshoots, but mostly I want to share the simple truths I’ve seen and heard in my office over the years.

-She will find out.
-You will be in the dog house.
-It is a trust betrayal.
-It takes a long time to get over (i.e., work through).
-There probably won’t be any sex for a while.
-She feels it means she’s not enough for you.
-She finds it disgusting and demeaning.
-He finds it titillating.
-He doesn’t think it’s a big deal; most guys look at porn once in a while.
-His view: if she would have sex with me (once or twice a week), I would not need to look at porn.
-If she looked at porn, and then did the deed with me, I’d be a happy man.
-She looks at porn and I find it exciting.
-She looks at porn and I’m mortified.
-We both like porn and watch it together.
-We’ve never talked about porn.

As with every other topic, I recommend you talk about porn — before it becomes an issue.